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Don't do anything

Keep your money in bank accounts, because stock market crashes are too scary. They will wipe out all of your money! Don't fight for the top position in a company, because they are too hard. You won't be able to make it. They are only reserved for capable people. You are not. Don't talk to attractive opposite genders, because rejections are really damn bad. Your self-esteem will be completely destroyed. If you love to paint, don't publish your painting to public, they are too ugly. If you love gaming, don't join tournament, you will lose. If you love singing, don't sing and post on Youtube. People only watch good singing from famous singers. You are not them. If you love running projects, don't start business, most good ideas have already been taken. Don't take actions, because they are not projects that are 100% sure of succeeding. Don't believe in yourself, because others are better. Don't think big, because you are small. Don...

Follow What You Like

Recently I received emails from some young juniors asking about advice/tips as they are soon attending interviews to be enrolled into Malaysian universities. One of them asked me about the reasons of me choosing UM and Law degree. The question is so simple yet worth asking for every single person to recall why we do what we do. So I copy and paste the answers below to share with you: [Answers] "Why did I choose law" (Course) and "Why did I choose UM" (University) were choices that I made in year 2011 when I was 19 years old.  "Why did I choose law"  Cool but very hard to do I think everyone wants to do cool things. At 19, the cool things that I really fantasised to be were:  Football Athlete/ Dota Professional Player / Singer So those are cool but very hard to do until I felt like not so possible. So I stopped thinking about them. Easy but not cool At the mean time, there were a lot of things that are   easy to do but not cool : Business, E...

About Meanness

I hate mean people. I hate them so much to the extend that I will definitely become one (thus contradicting myself) when I happen to meet them.  One reason is that I was being treated meanly quite often during my teen days. AIESEC That is also the reason why I was so into AIESEC when I was in undergraduate study. It was one of the rare place [1] where majority of the people were trying hard not to be mean, and you can shun someone if he/she happens to be one.  There was this infectious organisational culture which everyone loves to say "Let's ensure everyone has a fair share", or "Make sure that no one is being left out". In fact, the culture was so ingrained that it became a mantra to say so and an obligation to act so. [2]   In local social groups, the minority stopped attempting to voice out as most of their past attempts have been overshadowed by the majority. Here, the minority have an unusually high probability getting heard. In fact, it wo...

Good

23rd January 2018 | 6.28pm | Starbucks Nexus Bangsar South Finished 'working' for a sinecure, I did not go home and instead I came to a cafe. I have not been doing this for almost a year, after my perplexing change of behaviours. I have learned a lot about settling for the good instead of fighting for the best, not risking myself instead of taking risks and "no pain no gain". But my System 1 non-stop craving for the best thing, the most beautiful girl, the most perfect scenario, the best opportunity, the best thing on earth. These things are great, but they are highly volatile, highly risky and the Damocle's sword are hanging on top of you while you got them. And then I started doubting myself that is that real? The risks seem unreal. Maybe I should? Maybe I should be assertive? Maybe I would ended up wasted the best years of my life settling for less? Also, it is possible that I am fine and it is already the best actually. Thank you.

Less than what you think.

At what point does a director thinks that the movie he is filming is good enough? At what point does a painter thinks that his painting is good enough and stop? How about writer? photographer? songwriter? What is 'good'? Are there quantitative measures like KPIs in business or metrics to be fulfilled? Or it is purely a generic feeling thingy? Most importantly, must the creator like the creation himself like how a fan likes it? The most controversial thing about art is the creation of art school itself.  Art by definition means 'the product of human creativity'. Creativity means something that is groundbreaking and new. How can we teach someone to create something 'new'? 'Teaching' means replication and it means that we are passing something existing to the next person. It is not something new, it is not creativity, and thus, it is not an art.  Perhaps the career as artist itself is also controversial.  An art...

Wonderfully dark life

I did not buy insurance. I don't have one. And this excited many insurance agents as I am the rare breed that can be their potential client. The most common pitch I received is: "Imagine you suddenly contracted certain disease and you are lying on deathbed but you have no money, how will you feel? You are going to die, don't you afraid?You should protect yourself, start from now." This statement is made based on one big assumption: "The longer life is, the better it is." or, "We must live as long as possible." What if we question it by thinking the opposite? What if I think, my life has already completed and I don't need more of them? I have lived for 25 years. I have done many wonderful things. I am born under two lovely parents, I played so many video games and sports, I scored so well in exams. I had wonderful university life. I had been to many many countries. I am able to explore so many knowledge and parts of the universe. I have ...

Don't read too much.

In recent years, there is this hot trend of 'reading'. Everyone started building their 'reading list' and putting 'reading books' as a mandatory item in their bucket lists. Since young we were told by everyone superior than us that 'reading is good', 'you should read more', 'knowledge is wealth'. Things were getting more tensed when journalists started telling everyone that every successful person wakes up at 4am to read and they read 60 books a year, and also every book becomes 'Must-read if you want to become successful and happy'. At the same time there were a lot of hoax-y pseudo statistics that were circulating around telling people which country's citizens read the most and how it was related to economical successes. The outcome? Happy book publishers, bookstore owners, writers (Of course the happiest will be the pseudo writers who claimed themselves as authors but in fact they are merely information refurbishers or ...